(04-05-2023, 03:48 AM)Darius Wrote: but in some affairs I reserve the right to question the member in regards to his behaviour elsewhere if said behaviour is any in way related to another person in the faction or to the faction itself.
For me personally, the larger issue isn't what you did, though I don't wholly agree there either, it's the standards and methodology that you did it with. Putting aside other forum behaviour which is a whole can of worms in and of itself, and focusing solely on the incident with Kalh, is it your honest belief as a member of a faction's high command that calling out said behaviour in the middle of a discord is really the best way to resolve that conflict?
Did it cross your mind to resolve the matter in private/DMs where it might not have exploded into, well, this, frankly? Did you make any effort to try to understand his upset or where it might be coming from? Because those are both really critical parts of conflict resolution, and therefore a really critical part of leading any group, online or otherwise. Making someone feel persecuted in pseudo-public is not the way to bring them around. Reach out to them in private, without an accusatory tone. You can be firm, mind you, that's absolutely doable, but being accusatory will only make the situation worse. There is a massive difference to me between "Where my and Markam's bias about Bretonia." and demanding he present evidence as if this is some kind of trial by law, and DMing "Hey, what you're posting on the forum isn't going to fly if you keep doing it, we need to sort this out, where's this coming from?"
That's the methodology that, from my outsider's perspective, is in dire need of improvement above all else.