The amazing power of mutual respect.

[Angelfire]

In Real life I have many employees in my company, and the short time I have spent on discovery has totally changed the way I do things in business and leadership.

Here are some of the amazing things I have learned from all of you and consequently applied in real life.

1- EVERYONE deserves the utmost respect, even the selfish, lazy and ignorant.

Your part is to be courteous, patient and highly respectful.
Their possible lack of response to your maturity can be handled through the system.
Let the lawful systems and procedures take care of the transgressors.
You just make sure that you carefully document any wrongdoing in case proof is needed.
Ironically, controlling your temper and dealing with people respectfully mostly gains you the same treatment for as the nugget goes 'you teach people how to treat you!'

2- Handle everyone as if they could break at any moment.

yeah! you heard me right. We don't know what people have been through or are going through for that matter. There is much more to life than that present moment you are in.
Here's an example. My mom recently committed suicide. Some fellow jokingly spews 'yo mamma' jokes. fun over for the day.

I'm not saying spend your llife on ice around people but I am certainly saying.. a little respect goes a looooooong way!

3- Titles can be cool sometimes.

'Good morning mr Cummings, how are you today?'

Man, that little show of respect can prep up the atmosphere beautifully!
I have all the fellas greeting each other like that now.. at first it felt corny but when the majority got into it, laughter and fun followed much easily!

Anyhoo.. Forgive my sentimentality, but I thought it right to share how you lot have made my life a bit better...

after all.. what is a man if he does not make the world a better place?

[Dopamino]

Absolutely right.
Sorry about your mom though:(

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[tfmachad]

Congratulations, Angelfire.

I, for myself, believe that reading a book is much more about the reader than exactly about the book. That helping is much more about the person willing to ask for help than that the person offering. That meaning, you only reflect/absorb, that which you are prepared to. So, if you managed to acquire that kind of lesson, it really says a lot about yourself.

Again, congratulations.

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[sovereign]

Hooray for epiphanies! And sorry about your mom...:(

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[onca]

/signs.

If you're interested, here is a little book which quelled my cynical fires a bit: "The Road Less Travelled".

The first line reads: "Life is pain." ....... (IIRC)

[Jihadjoe]

I agree with everything you have said, but I do just want to add that showing respect to people and treating them well doesn't exclude being very tough when people are out of line. Infact i think it requires it.

I think a lot of this is actualy about giving a toss about the people around you, if you geniunely care about peple it's very very hard to do the wrong thing. treaing people as if they are about to break at any moment is a good idea, but also don't underestijmate people's stregth. A lot of people will get more upset if you wrap them in emotional cotton wool and will often go out of the way to prove that "they're fine".

It is very hard to deal with other people's crises especialy when you are ignorant of them, It best just to try to keep track of whats going on in their lives I suppose...

Sorry about this rambling nonsence, I was trying to make a point but i don;t think it really came out. Oh well.

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[Angelfire]

I totally agree.

I think that strangers should be handled with care though because you have no idea what burdens they carry!

Concerning friends, employees, family, etc,

I read somewhere that you communicate for the sake of their future, never for the sake of your own emotional release...

I reckon that this means some people need cottonwool and others need the whip!

A true friend would not stand around and allow those close to him to destroy themselves because of his fear of confrontation or rejection...

Conduct permitted is coduct endorsed! or as the saying goes:
'inaction of good men is all that evil needs to triumph.'


apologies for the soapbox... I just enjoy hearing your thoughts fellas.

[Joggin]

Well folks,

There are a number of threads here.. very many in fact, and it's a fascinating topic. I'd like to add my take, but will limit it to the Online Gaming/RL relationship... and probably the point is already made..... Just treat people with the same respect on line as you would on a day to day "RL meet" relationship.

But plus loads....On Line you will have no idea of that persons circumstances, so be aware of that, and don't make assumptions of any sort. Deal only with what you know and tread carefully into the unknown.

For what it's worth

cheers,
MJ

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