Fighting the same fight simultaneously in private and public and then whining when the private part is made public just makes you a stereotypical extroverted 12 year old girl.
No flames or slanderous accusations will help you win your <strike>lost cause</strike> case, especially when they are logically flawed remarks.
Oh yes, the "show him I'm ignoring him so I can get the last word"/"ignore those who produce irrefutable evidence" things. Been there done that bought the T-shirt. Too bad I know that people who do that 9 times out of 9 will hit "view post" anyway, so:P