Sorry to resurrect this thread from the dead... but I'm having the same problem as described here, but none of the fixes work or apply to me.
Anytime I try to click on any FL server, I get the "This is taking an unusually long time" message followed by the "can't connect message.
I don't have Norton, I'm running AVG anti-virus but I'm NOT using any of their firewall/internet security software, and Freelancer is allowed by windows Firewall. I have restarted my modem and router, still nothing.
Any ideas for me to try, I'm really excited to try out the Discovery-RP server, but I can't join :O