After a discussion with Impy, the person with the missile ships, I realize that there were misunderstandings involved for both sides.
However, I really hope you'll fix your problems with other players, on this gank, hug, bot share, missile spam, logging ships over and over... and stuff... unless you enjoy playing that way, which is ok in that case.
I don't know if it is accepted to be playing that way right now, and everyone is fine with it, indy or no. I realize I just can't adjust to server's game play standards. It used to be different.