All participants should take the time to read Huggie's long post.
He has the right idea of how especially in a bad situation as this one an oorp cooperation on the player-player level is needed to make the char-char play not fail. I completely share his criticism that the whole roleplay was poorly planned and badly executed.
Do a 2nd attempt. Clarify what is acceptable and what not. Clarify what is possible as an outcome or even set what result you both want to roleplay towards. Clarify who can post, and what can be posted.
A roleplay of this dimension (for all the critical points, see Huggie's post) cannot be expected to run smoothly without a lot of planning and cooperation on the oorp level.
Get that cooperation fixed.
Then re-play it.
That's the only way I see a chance of saving face and avoiding the roleplay catastrophe that we are moving towards. Furthermore... the amount of drama is too damn high, really. Would be nice if it could be ended in a positive way (means: nice to read roleplay with an outcome that every part can live with).