Especially in recent times, I've never really seen people be anything but nice to individual players. Of course that falls apart if the individual player is not being the most communicative, or is being ridiculously hostile. People tend to get upset in such scenarios.
EDIT: Hold on, you want to not make this a trial by forum and yet you're saying "People who read this WILL KNOW WHO THEY ARE."
What exactly are you trying to achieve?
I'm sensing a personal issue with some players here. Perhaps it was much like the scenario I mentioned. Maybe it is more suited to a feedback thread. Lord knows those need attention.