Well, it appears to be also mostly the case that those which hate "gankings" also affect others with their QQing. Because sometimes when you get the feedback of a faction "wow this and this faction ganked me 10vs1 what the hell I wont ever play in this faction again anymore" you kinda feel like the responsibility to react the same way and give them advise, but mostly it's bad advise as we get too emotional.
^ This is more about faction leaders that suddenly QQ on feedback threads about ganking, as the members mostly go all uncontrolled and yell at leader that this and this group constantly ganks and he wouldn't log inside the faction again, just because of this. Pisses off some of the people, but eventually it makes them post on the said factions feedback thread with negative intentions.
Another thing could be, as some of the people proposed, to just let the Systems on the player list show "Unknown" and only the ones inside your Group would display the current System they're in. This way "omg this person logged, now let's log and pew him" would be avoided and people would actually just check the Systems for interaction.. Now I'm not sure if this is possible but maybe Players that are inside the system you're in would display but everyone else would stay unknown, would that kinda bring some balance for non-PvPers? At least they wouldn't be pin-pointed and actively hunted this way.
Other thing is, some of those PvP-based games have a ranking system. Like, this is the best PvPer then the 2nd, 3rd. Could implement this in here too, to give PvPers at least a reason to top each other instead of dealing with newbs at that time.
As in who should win.. It's hard to say, for me the one able to show a perfect scenario (RP) are the one that wins kinda, even with pews and even if he dies. If the Player manages to RP so good that you feel yourself inside a Movie Scene together with the PvP assets, even if he looses, I think he's the one that will get the best kudos for creating such a Scene that made fun for everyone else, even the PvP-whores to participiate with.
It's hard to say who wins realy... But as you may know, clearly in disco it doesn't matter that much. Best example is Rheinland that raided liberty nonstop won all the battles but in the end it was still Liberty which suddenly won and kinda pushed Rheinland back, bla bla.
Hmm... Train and win? Or make yourself a perfect actor of RP scenes and win too, even without being good in PvP.