When I first came arrived I broke the rules as well. I lost some things, but not much, the admins spared me despite not knowing me, probably because the rule I broke was not clearly defined.
I agree communication between the admins and the member could be better at times, but they keep pretty busy. I think they need secretaries, any volunteers?
I empathize but I dont think reducing the rules is an option. It is these rules that keep the quality of gameplay so high. If something need to be made more clear I am sure the admins would love to hear what and how to best do that.