I agree with Lanakov. I took a few months break to get things off of my mind rather then blowing up on the forums, it really helped me destress and relax. You just got to remember that in the end, its a game, people play differently, many in ways you'll like or hate and were all like that. I might not like how some people play here, but in their eyes there is nothing wrong with it.
If you mean the development, then there's a bug report area for a reason mate. I also want to say this, I was taught to PvP via the Judges back in the day, it took me 6 months to go up 1 rank, and that meant 2-3 days of weekly PVP training and even today I keep training to get better. In this case, people sometimes PvP daily, and I'll never be as good as them unless I in turn, train hard and learn how to counter them. Ship setup counters exist for a reason, different shields, different ship type and class and even weapons as a whole. And yes, there are those that know how to use that to the best that they can, and thats normal. There are traders that know how to make a billion in a day, there are researcher players that can invent things in a day. Some train, some take time, and others work for it.
Something I've come to learn is that if I'm defeated in PvP, is not to get upset, but train till I fight the person again next time, and while I can understand some people don't got time to train, you sometimes don't need to. I'm crap in snub PvP but extremely good with Gunships and sometimes Cruisers, its just how I learned to PvP. Everyone is good at something and other people are not, there are many roles on discovery in many shapes and sizes.
And if this is something related to LN, then remember that its a military faction, and I'll steal this line from Fallout "War, war never changes, people do, thorough the roads that which they chose" So just remember, keep trying to do better mate, don't give up!