I think, that in 95% of the scenarios complained about, and described, that your pilots are simply worth more than the other side's pilots. I think that two RHA Odins, under most circumstances, especially assuming one of them is you Wesker, can handle four other people, and have it be a more interesting, more fair, and more fun fight for all involved.
People log to participate for fights they have a chance to win. I don't think you realize that despite even numbers, you are still guaranteed a victory in most circumstances. Does that mean you should be punished for being good at the game, or that skilled players should be stigmatized? No. But the onus of creating a balanced fight falls to the most capable people in the room, and we both know that balance rests heavily upon experience and skill, not only (or even mostly), numbers and ships.
We had an honor system so thoroughly rooted in Discovery's very existence back in the day that the [LN] and [RM] circa 2010 would actually shoot their own indies if they jumped in and unbalanced a fight, and would happily sit people out and juggle people of varying skill levels around to ensure it wasn't a complete stomp. If your people are of a higher skill level than the rest of the server then yes, if you want a balanced fight, sometimes some of them will need to sit out and not participate. But I think that this is worth it, if such behaviour ultimately encourages others to show up and participate, which also allows more of yours to participate, so on and so forth.