(08-13-2019, 07:06 PM)Pillow Wrote: More like being realistic. This is a place of scum and villainy filled with circlejerks around every corner. No matter how nice you are to everyone you are still going to get decked by some dude and his friends because you did a minor thing that he didn't agree with. That's how Discovery has been for as long as anyone can remember and will continue to be like this until its last day. My approach to this place is to have a good time, hence my post.
So, if I understand you correctly your definition of a good time is basically ridiculing other people's good intentions. You are basically embracing being part of the problem though you are aware that it's wrong and not only disrespectful towards your fellow players but also harmful to this community as a whole. I respect you echoing Yber stating that people should grow a thick skin. I partly agree with you. I believe people should indeed grow a thicker skin when it comes to inrp interactions, factions losing stuff or gaining stuff, lack of balance in certain ship models, fights, equipment, being outskilled and even ganking. All these things are inevitable and although we have a sort of unwritten code of conduct about it, it widely differs depending on who you ask. Most of these things we normal players have no grip on, we cannot change it no matter how much we complain about it.
What we can do though as normal players is play within the spirit of the rules, be excellent to one another and refrain from the behaviour that for ease of conversation I'll sum up as "toxic". When you're in game Discovery comes quite close to being one's personal playground, as long as you stay within the rules and within the confines of RP you can pretty much do what you want to do. What I believe you do not understand is that you can't treat people as your personal playthings. Behind the avatars and forum posts are actual people.
If you would treat people in real life in such a toxic manner then indeed sooner or later you are going to get decked by some dude and his friends, and though I do not advocate violence at all, that is just being realistic. I believe the only reason why some people on this forum behave like that is the lack of sooner or later walking into the wrong one. And that's problematic. Imagine a world without consequences for your actions, it would turn into a place of scum and villainy pretty quickly until eventually people would band together and police themselves. That is why we have social norms and even if for whatever reason these do not come to you naturally you will be treated better if you abide by them. Not only that, people will respect you more, value your company and in return you will be happier.
On that note you help yourself by helping someone else, and you are friendly to yourself if you are friendly to someone else.
Ofcourse you will always have the risk of encountering a person who is taking the piss but you will have friends around you that will say "don't worry about it, he's just being a dick, let's play some disco"
It's never too late to change Pillow, and I'd be delighted to be one of those friends.
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