Suzy, have NO DarkWings initiate combat at all.
In fact have us sit somewhere far away from the tradelanes. Then we can focus strictly on the RP and when we have a need to fight, we just sit there and fight each other. This will end the accusations of us being pvpwhores. It will end the accusations of us never Roleplaying. It will also end any chance for anyone else to ever battle against us. This is a RP server not a PVP server. So battles should only happen every few days not every day. It will end the chest beating and other infantile taunts sent our way as well as end the pathetic insults as well. Screenshot any insults and report them. End of story and end of problem.
Did you maybe even considered logic? You know, go around (excluding liberty) and look how things work? Learn from good show groups, like S/D, BAF, RM and alike, who actually know how to roleplay. Ask about maybe you will see that not everything is how YOU imagined it.
100 People can see same apple, but they will not get same impression of it. But there will be precentage of those with impressions that are alike or overlaping. And their impression will be set as example.
Instead of living for PVP encounters, try actually roleplay for sake of roleplay (for ones with lack of wit, type out match with other player). Even if they are your enemy, there is still player on other side, and he is alive, breating human. RESPECT that fact. Also that same human is here to roleplay, since this is RP server afterall, he is not here to endlessly hold down fire key and spin in circles.
If you cannot take it, if you do not understand it, or you do not wish to accept it... This is not place for you. Go, find another server or another game. We do not need you, or want you if you cannot adapt to wishes of majority.
Acutally, do you know that your "you cannot join other player factions" policy is hampering you in roleplay? Because you lack expirience and source from wich you could learn it.