Wolf, I think you may have the wrong idea about the server, it seems many people do, even ones who play here unfortunately. This Server and community should not be about extremes, it is not a 100%RP server, and it is not a 100% PVP server. It has to be a balance, a balance of RP, PVP and most importantly for all the players here fun. I understand the viewpoint of not wanting one of your men to fall, and wanting to do anything in your power to stop it, even calling in a BS, but you have to think about what is going to be fair and fun for the other side too. Otherwise this becomes very competitive and pushes the balance toward PVP. If it is all about winning the battle, then you should use whatever the best weapons and ships are, because, if it is about winning, why would you use any less?
It is the same thing with the multifactioning. We do a lot of that here, because this is about fun, and about the community and getting to play the game from different points of view. It is not about making sure your factions win every battle. I understand not wanting your member to join other factions if your goal is to make sure you win every encounter, but as I said, that is no what this server and community is about.
The Suggestion of joining the RM is because you have come from a different place and are not as familiar with our brand of RP and the way we do things here. Joining RM will give you guys a chance to play with some veteran players of this community, and allow you to see what this server is about.