I'm going to abstain from further comment here, aside from that this server's about roleplay and common decency. Adolescent chest-beating about being good at a video game is dumb anywhere, as are accusations of cheating after you lose. Here it's not only dumb but flies in the face of what we're about here.
Use of voice programs is fine but shouldn't be necessary to compete. I know I've left other games because things got too competitive and stopped being fun because. Typically as well, when I know I'm better-organized and more skillful at a game than the one(s) I'm flying against, I'll intentionally ratchet back the skill level and keep it interesting. I'll intentionally miss shots or tickle them with pulse guns on the hull. I'll fly a straight line and fire at them with rear turrets. If it's a cap fight, I'll try to peel off their guns/components one by one.
Basically, I keep it fun for all involved. I dunno about the rest of you, but I'm just here to hang out and make my and everyone else's experience a positive one.
In many instances this has worked well to foster good player relations and proven a solid learning experience for those I had the roleplayed 'fight' with. Just because you can blast them apart with ease doesn't mean you just go ahead and do so. We're all here to play a role -- if you're assured of your own victory, then make it entertaining.