Connectivity issue

[Firephenix29]

Hello, Im new to discovery and am having dificulties connecting.

Ive been reading the forums and trying things out for the past 2 weeks with no real good results.

These are the files that Ive been using to get on

windows vista, and turned off that v6 thing (the bane of all computer games sadly)
flmm1.31
discovery4854beta mod
GLS workaround v0.9
Ive updated to 4.85 beta4 update1
As far as I know Ive had admin privileges the entire time
I use dsupdate.exe to start freelancer
my windows firewall is dead
I have ESET for virus software (whitelisted)
I can see lots of servers, the 3 that are ver 48.154 (or somethin like that) are in blue text, the rest i dont have the correct ver so there in red text. (without GLS I see 2 blue discovery servers)

I know my files aren't corrupt or anything because I sent these files to a friend using XP who got online and on the server just fine as soon as he got the activation orders right.

Ping on average is about 150 now

A problem that mightve been related:
I tried to get the single player working before I went online at all. Everything starts out fine, untill I make a jump to a different system. As soon as I would normally appear in the next system, the game would crash, no warning or error messages or anything.

So far when I try to join multiplayer, it just says "Im sorry, but a connection could not be established to that server. This is usually caused by a server going offline when you attempted to connect to it. It may also be caused by internet problems. Please try again later".

I was told that since I used dsupdate and I could see the servers I didnt need to use direct connection methods. Also that GLSworkaround isnt needed.

Any help would be apreciated, Thanks.