Xoria is still right, even in this situation you are describing, You felt in their little trick/trap. If you don't want to be fooled, just... go away or draw them AWAY from the BS, slowly. I'm not asking for a lot. Sure some tactic are more annoying than others. But I find most of them legitimate.
Kinda similar to a soldier pulling himself behind a wall to reload, while in the meantime, the Humvee will provide support.
When someone use a tactic against you, be smart and quick enough to pull one against him.
However, I find that hugging an enemy base, just to make its allies shoot it to get red to the base, very illegitimate, as it is seriously abusing a flaw in the game. Shooting allied NPC will make them red. pure game mechanics exploit