You guys sound like teenagers piloting battleships, instead of ghosts traveling through space.
Ghosts don't have neutralities/alliances/etc etc. Ghosts are suppose to be etherial and mysterious.
There is absolutely NOTHING mysterious about any of your characters.
From a roleplay perspective, your buddy "S.Spiegel" shot mortars at Freeport 9, killing hundreds, because I was "whining" too much. That makes absolutely no sense. It's a complete player reaction, with no character motivation -- simply because your characters are just kids in Battleships.