Dont worry about the money; its the principle not the cash. And frankly, do as I do. Dont so much go by what you hear by frothing ragers. GO INGAME AND SEE FOR YOURSELF. Most of the time people have overstated what is happening and outright lying. For your group to not like raiding, you do it QUITE a bit. If there isnt a raid on, you are pewing outside Alpha or sitting AFK. Thats fine, do what you wish, its a game, blah blah blah. However dont rage and curse at me if I refuse to gank or come bail you out of a fight YOU instigated.
Also, when capspam comes to visit, its almost ALWAYS responding to OUR capspam. If not, then once the raid is over, OUR caps go raid Gamma; its a neverending cycle. Most 101st have stopped having anything to do with it since the capwhores are getting to do what they want. They only want us to go along to have some legitimacy; if someone complains they are told "We were only doing what the Ghosts told us to do". Which is crap.
TLDR: People act like little whining girls when they are anonymous. People rage and act like superman when there is no accountability. GO INGAME AND SEE FOR YOURSELF. Make your own decisions. Take the people involved into account when you make decisions.