You could start by not logging in every time you spy a DHC in 11. No one is going to fault the RHA players for letting another group of players have fun too. I don't think your role play is a problem, from what I can tell you do a stand up job. The problem comes in the fact that this isn't real life, you aren't fighting a real war. It wouldn't hurt you to ignore them from time to time to let them have a good time too.