I had my Girlfriend of 10 years do it to me. It sucks big time, and I would like to say you will get over it, but you won't. Just need to learn how to live with it, and move on. Best thing is if you can find someone hotter then her, and shove it in her face for revenge. Sort of like "look i upgraded, thx for freeing me" kind of thing.
Your input have really helped me Thanks guys...
And sorry, but the last thing is revenge i'm not a vengeful person and i'd simply move on.
Even tho she is making it harder for me since he calls me from her boyfriend's and tell me that she loves me still...She does, me too but i simply cannot let this happen and i have to move on.
Cheating on me what is something unforgivable for me...
' Wrote:And sorry, but the last thing is revenge i'm not a vengeful person and i'd simply move on.
When you refuse to forgive a person, you become enslaved to the hatred. And ultimately, that hatred will prevent you from loving anyone ever again. You are right; vengeance is not the way.
Analyze and learn why she cheated on you. Learn from your mistakes, from your relationship's mistakes, and move on.
Cheating is almost never a one sided, dark side thing. It has its reasons. More than half of the cheatings are based on the relationships' dynamics. Sorry, I am not patting your back, but then it wouldn't help you in the long run. This is not about teasing you. If you pity on yourself now, and if you (you and your gf) did something not in its optimum state through your relationship, you will simply be angry with her, curse after her, get drunk, lick your wounds and eventually find a new relationship, and will probably do the same mistakes because you have no idea what that mistake was, simply because instead of analyzing, you picked the no 1 human escape psychology: blame the other. I am not saying your GF is right. I am simply saying your GF may not be "wrong" or pushed to that side of the line for some underlying reason. It may simply turn out to be her bad, but it may not. And most of the time, it is not.
Learning the dynamics of relationships is much more important for your understanding of human nature, which would help you in your future endeavours.
' Wrote:When you refuse to forgive a person, you become enslaved to the hatred. And ultimately, that hatred will prevent you from loving anyone ever again. You are right; vengeance is not the way.
' Wrote:Even tho she is making it harder for me since he calls me from her boyfriend's and tell me that she loves me still...She does, me too but i simply cannot let this happen and i have to move on.
Cheating on me what is something unforgivable for me...
Oh man, that is *so* wrong, calling you from there. :rtfm:
If you can, block that number on your phone, that if she wants to call you it *has* to be from somewhere else.
Note: In my opinion, if she still loves you, she wouldn't be calling from his place.
To forgive means to let go of the malice and anger. It does not mean that one must be a sheep and let the behavior which caused the damage to repeat.
It is possible to forgive someone and still keep them at arms length to protect yourself until trust has been reestablished. And even then, forgiveness does not require that things go back to the way they were before.
If you do not forgive, you do not move on. You sit and fester like a wound that was never cleaned. And it will kill you, slowly.
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