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A couple of people on this server know about this but most of you don't. I'm very private about my personal life but if my actions and this post saves a life then it's worth it.
I love my son. I love him more than words so when I had to bring him to a mental hospital after he again attempted suicide, it tore me apart. Even this morning, the morning after, I'm still trying to keep myself together. Talking to him briefly on the phone did help somewhat.
To make his history short, he suffers from ADHD, OCD and is a high functioning autistic. He also can't control his emotions as I was reminded two days ago. A recent break-up with his ex has been impossible for him to take. They were together for over 5 years and were engaged. Basically, she made him break it off so that "she wouldn't have to live with the guilt." Cheap yes but being how shallow she is, I'm glad it's over. She's been rubbing her new relationship in his face which set him off. There's a lot more to what she's doing but it's not about her anymore.
So after he went off, my wife and I took our son to get some help. I'm very lucky to have been married to such a strong woman for so long now. She's taking it well whereas I'm trying to keep myself together. I know I did the right thing by checking him in. As a military man, I preach to do what's right, even if it hurts and let me tell you, doing the right thing is kicking my ass right now.
So please, if you, a friend, one of your children or a significant other needs psychiatric help, get it for them. I wouldn't wish this on anyone. I'm trying not to think what I would be like right now if he had succeeded in killing himself.
I'll still be here in server as RP and writing are things that keep my mind busy and not focussing on recent events. Thanks for listening.
Man, I feel for you, but most importantly - I want to share some advice. My mother (and other relatives) have been through psychological trauma too and we found out, the best way to heal is to set yourself a new reason to live.
No matter how tragic it looks, that your son lost his girlfriend, he has gained much more in wisdom and life experience! All evolution goes through trauma. He is not the first, nor will he be the last to get dumped by a GF, there are many books of people who wrote them after experiencing the same problems!
Have your son read some of those books out there and let him try to apply some of the methods of dealing with those things! Life is much bigger than this, there are a lot of more unfortunate people (like people actually missing limbs, having REAL problems and health issues), so that WILL help him get back stronger from this all!
Hope I helped.
P.S. Buy him the books of Louise Hay, she is a world-renowned psychologist and HAS BEEN THROUGH much in her life, overcome all those problems.
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I'm in the same boat as your son (ADHD, Aspergers(a variant of HF Autism), and I've been in a psych ward before. You did the right thing, and I hope he gets better. He will find his mutual other one day, he just needs to be able to roll with the punches life gives him. I'll keep you and your family in my prayers.
All of my friends who have ever been in need of psychiatric assistance (some of them are on the autism spectrum, some suffer from clinical depression, some have PTSD, etc. -- and, of course, those sets overlap) agree on one thing: it is vitally important to get help from professionals.
So even though it tears you apart, focus on the thought that you did the right thing. You already know this -- intellectually. But hold on to that thought.
There are people that want to help and there are people that can help, and approaching the latter is the first step in the right direction. Stay strong, because one of the most important social bonds is the one of the parents. If you stay strong, he will stay strong as well. Losing is not when you fall, it is when you stay down. As long as you can overcome the bad times, knowing there will be better times, everything will be fine. I wish the best to you and your family, Doc!
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Just an update. It's been a long couple of weeks since my son made an attempt on his life. He is now home and is using tools he has learned to cope. I won't say that he's over it but I will say that he's doing better. We talk more than we used to and I make time each day to listen to him if that's all he wants me to do.
I myself have been attending a course for the military. Sadly, I will be dismissed from it as I found myself in the hospital after falling ill. Yes, Father Time is catching up to me. I have my own health issue to learn about and learn how to live with. As of right now, I have no answers. I'm just hoping that 2018 gets better and quick.
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