smaller craft can rp the eject-system saved em. capitals, well. I always rp my cap to take critcal damage when destroyed. (a part of) the crew sometimes dies in rp but never the main rp charas (captain, c engeneer etc.) they always live trough the use of escape pods/shuttles
that way you can rp that the ship wreckage has been towed back to the neareast allied base, hence solving the naming "problem" as well. although as stated earlier: what would stop people to call their new ship the same as their old, destroyed one?
also, from a logical point of view: it`s a game. you can`t get it all 100% realistic.
as for posting screen to stroke yer ego: I don`t agree. action reports look better with some sort of screens in em. and what about bounties? people won`t take your word for it when you say you bagged a target:P