As for the loss of weapons I sometimes dock even with weapons destroyed.
To me it is more realistic then getting ''killed'' in order to get my weapons back and it gives certain satisfaction to enemy, knowing he dealt some damage.
Few days ago I lost an TWILIGHT when I fled to FP1 from Necrosis xD
Or you could be like Bruce (my BPA) and RP a crash landing. Spilling tea on your control board can be deadly you know. :D